Halal online dating: getting to know someone with respect

Many Muslims ask whether using a marriage site is halal. For most scholars, what matters is not the tool but the way it is used: a clear intention of marriage, modesty and honesty. Here are the principles that guide respectful conversations.

A clear intention: marriage

The purpose of getting to know someone is to find out whether you could build a family together. Say so openly and avoid conversations that have no aim.

Modesty in words and photos

• Choose decent photos. You can keep them private and decide who sees them.
• Keep your words polite and avoid overly personal subjects at the start.
• Do not insist if the other person is not ready to share something.

Involve the family

When the conversation becomes serious, many sisters involve their wali and many brothers introduce their parents. It protects both sides and shows sincere intentions.

Honesty from the first message

Be truthful about your age, your situation, previous marriages and children. A relationship built on honesty starts on solid ground.

Meeting in person

Meet in a public place, with family or a chaperone, and tell someone you trust where you are going. Read our tips for dating safely.

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